that if I can just explain what I am thinking, the other person will "get it".
I tried this with my children. I resolved that I wouldn't punish, I'd explain. Then they would say "Yeah, I get it, I'll never.......(fill in the blank)....... again".
What I ended up with was two world class debaters. I'm not kidding, Tommy won awards in high school.
It hardly ever works and yet I can't give up on it.
Yesterday I was angry and posted something petty and small. Two people questioned it and I was ashamed and deleted it.
The first person made a joke. He understands we all make mistakes. I'm sure he hopes, as I do, that I try to do better in the future.