Monday, January 02, 2012

I Don't Want To Hear Another Word About Newt Gingrich's 1st Wife

UPDATE #2 - This has nothing to do with politics. I am not saying that you should vote for him based on this point I am making.
Also, sadly, it appears that not every state has an exception written into their statutaory rape laws regarding imbalance of power (i.e. teacher/student).
UPDATE - I've been asked about the 17 year old part. Newt was born 06/17/1943 & graduated Baker High School in June, 1961. He was 17 years old his entire senior year.
I knew that most accounts of Newt Gingrich's first marriage portray him in a very poor light.

I knew that people who want a reason to dislike Newt trot this story.

I knew people who want to back Newt are dismayed by this story.

No matter where you are in the political spectrum, what could be worse than to be tarred with "Served his wife with divorce papers in her hospital bed after a cancer treatment!!!!" He is portrayed as the aggressor, she is the victim.

So I knew that it was not as salacious as his enemies made out. I knew that when a marriage breaks up there are stories and exaggerations and hurt feelings. I know that we can never know and how we feel is colored by how we feel about the participants.

However, thanks to Sunday's Boston Globe (it's a pay site, sorry), I now know everything I ever need to know about Jackie Battley Gingrich.

Jackie was his high school geometry teacher. She was/is seven years his senior. She began molesting him while he was a student in her classroom.

Stop. Read that again. "She began molesting him while he was a student in her classroom." That's not how it's written everywhere else I have read it. It's written that he had or started an affair with her.

No.

That's not how it works. A boy does not start an affair with his teacher any more than a girl starts an affair with her teacher. I don't see any difference. I had boys, two sons and two extra. Anyone who says that boys can't be taken advantage of by female teachers is ignorant or lying. Your choice, I could give a shit and I will call you out no matter who you are.

One - Age disparity, seven years difference. When you are 30, seven years is not a big deal. When you are 17, it is.

Two - In loco parentis. All consent laws make an exception for cases where there is a power imbalance. Jackie Battley was his teacher. Therefore, she was his abuser, not his lover.

Ephebophilia describes an adult whose sexual preference is mid-to-late adolescents. Acting on it is a crime. A crime called statutory rape. The gender of each party is immaterial.

And what is the number one characteristic of all child rapists? Manipulation.

So there is not one thing you can tell me about Newt Gingrich's divorce that doesn't come back to Jackie Battley is a manipulative, sick, criminal. As we say here in Charlestown, she is a diddler. And everyone knows that you don't trust diddlers.

Also, if you want to talk about Newt and his fidelity problem, you must frame it in the terms you would apply to any other child molestation survivor.

We are all a product of the experiences that molded us. Tell me an experience that leaves a more indelible mark than having your early romantic/sexual memories be that of your molester/rapist.

A child is never a willing participant in their own rape.

5 comments:

Warrant Diver said...

Thanks for posting that Maggie, I did not know that and now I'm going to do some research of my own and get smarter. I like Newt's constitutional viewpoints (not so much some of his other positions) and think he is a brilliant person...he's also a great writer, look for his Civil War alternative history books (Grant Comes East, Gettysburg, Grant vs. Lee) if you like fiction. But the liberal press HATES him and have never reported THAT part of his story, which doesn't surprise me but disappoints me. Good work, lady.

Gordon Dundas said...

As a Canadian I don't really have a dog in this fight.... except for an interest in American politics.
I also have confession.I don't like the man for a variety of reasons that have no bearing on the current subject.
Yet at the same time I have to admit he is one of the brighter people on either side of the political spectrum.
However I've also viewed him as rather self destructive. I think that your story explains a great deal about the man. And although I still hold many reservations about about a possible Gingrich presidency .( assuming he gets thru your rather bizarre and creaky electoral process that occurs even before the party convention.)
Thanks to your rather educational posting.Those reservations will no longer his ethics in dealing with his former wife.
If anything he deserves some applause for having the strength to be able to break from her.
Thank you for both educating and correcting me.
Respectfully
Gordon Dundas

BostonMaggie said...

WD - Thanks!

Gordon, Thanks for being able to see past the politics and gender of it. A surprising number of people on Twitter and Facebook are not. I was disappointed at how many people couldn't see that a boy can be just as vulnerable as a girl. Not every guy with an older woman is a Penthouse letter, lol.

Googie Baba said...

Well. I hate his hair.

BostonMaggie said...

LOL!! I was just thinking about you this morning. I was thinking about you just his morning. I remembered that I hadn't gone back to comment in the post about the "Witch of Blackbird Bird Pond."